Tapsearch Com EditorGetting rid of bad habits is difficult
By Ray Tapajna, Editor and Artist at Tapart News and Art that Talks
Exploring the subject of habits is a tedious exercise. Getting rid of bad habits is so difficult. Even after going deep into the subject in the last several posts, I just want to quit the subject and move on to something more easy. So many things must be attended to in breaking bad habits. However, knowing that you may have to accept a tedious exercise to conquer something you do not want, may be an excellent start.
Human nature is subject to fatique and discouragement. We should expect breakdowns in getting rid of bad habits are almost unavoidable.
We have to believe there is a way in managing the process. Benjamin Franklin's method was to simply keep count of the occasions when he was caught in an undesirable habit or when he was successful in acquiring a new one. Day by day , the effort should be based on reducing the number of faults and celebrate when we have fewer falls than yesterday hoping for less tomorrow. Week by week, month by month the count is kept. We insist, we plan and forsee an order where the number is reduced if we are ridding ourselves of a habit or increasing a desirable one.
In others we can notice what attracts us to them. Is it their gentle spirit that conquers their range of bad habits or what else is there that they do that seems to be more of a life ideal than what we are looking for.
It took me about four years to quit smoking. I even quit for a whole years only to return to the habit . I found I had to then explore the externals more deeply that triggered the desire to smoke. Taking this time to process the situation, a healing took place with other externals related to my need to smoke. Then came a day when I put a burning cigarette down and never picked up another again. The process showed me there were better ways and the process started with asking why I used the habit. Finally one day, I had accumulated more reasons and the core elements to not smoke. Finally the better priorities of life kicked in.
Some will say it took courage to conquer habits but it seems like it takes something else to achieve success. It may be just the idea that there has to be a better way and in finding that better way, there will be an enjoyment of freedom from something that was out of control.
There will be a freedom to feel more right about things in the pursuit of our life ideal in many other ways too. Confidence comes to challenge other bad habits one by one or even all at once with the success of of getting rid of just one bad habit.
( Next: Conditioned reflex in getting rid of bad habits.
Exploring the subject of habits is a tedious exercise. Getting rid of bad habits is so difficult. Even after going deep into the subject in the last several posts, I just want to quit the subject and move on to something more easy. So many things must be attended to in breaking bad habits. However, knowing that you may have to accept a tedious exercise to conquer something you do not want, may be an excellent start.
Human nature is subject to fatique and discouragement. We should expect breakdowns in getting rid of bad habits are almost unavoidable.
We have to believe there is a way in managing the process. Benjamin Franklin's method was to simply keep count of the occasions when he was caught in an undesirable habit or when he was successful in acquiring a new one. Day by day , the effort should be based on reducing the number of faults and celebrate when we have fewer falls than yesterday hoping for less tomorrow. Week by week, month by month the count is kept. We insist, we plan and forsee an order where the number is reduced if we are ridding ourselves of a habit or increasing a desirable one.
In others we can notice what attracts us to them. Is it their gentle spirit that conquers their range of bad habits or what else is there that they do that seems to be more of a life ideal than what we are looking for.
It took me about four years to quit smoking. I even quit for a whole years only to return to the habit . I found I had to then explore the externals more deeply that triggered the desire to smoke. Taking this time to process the situation, a healing took place with other externals related to my need to smoke. Then came a day when I put a burning cigarette down and never picked up another again. The process showed me there were better ways and the process started with asking why I used the habit. Finally one day, I had accumulated more reasons and the core elements to not smoke. Finally the better priorities of life kicked in.
Some will say it took courage to conquer habits but it seems like it takes something else to achieve success. It may be just the idea that there has to be a better way and in finding that better way, there will be an enjoyment of freedom from something that was out of control.
There will be a freedom to feel more right about things in the pursuit of our life ideal in many other ways too. Confidence comes to challenge other bad habits one by one or even all at once with the success of of getting rid of just one bad habit.
( Next: Conditioned reflex in getting rid of bad habits.
