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Ethics Box - Exploring Personality and Character for sake of self-improvement

 
Tapsearch Com Editor and Artist Ray Tapajna with EthicsBox.com - studies Personality and Character for the sake of self-improvement. His mission is to probe ways for a new "Solidarity" for self, others and society under the guiding thought that each of us want to feel all together in one place at one time. It is also obvious that workers have no voice in the process of Globalization and Free Trade and hopefully the EthicsBox will prompt a change. See a posts about the "unnetted" at Bizarre Politics com and The Rationale com. Later we will get into the power of the spoken word and how all of us can improve ourselves in this discipline too. It is obvious workers have no voice in the process of Globalization and Free Trade.

Courage and Fear (LINK)

July 15th 2008 20:47
By Ray Tapajna taken from notes from Father McQuade SJ JCU course - Personality and Character

Exploring Courage and Fear

President Franklin Roosevelt said the only thing you have to fear is fear itself. Anyone who has suffered a severe illness may find that the fear comes into their being in a radical way.

Fear perphaps causes the more unhappiness than other emotions. It ranks well to the top. Fear is an emotion where we shrink from danger; courage is an emotion where we face it. Fear carries with it panic and terror. Courage provides us the power to deal wtih difficulties with a calmness and a practical action. While these two emotions seem to be very different, they connect with each other in certain ways. A courageous heart does not exclude fear. It finds ways to control it. In war only a foolish person feels no fear. Courage has the power to modify fear. It gives a person the power to carry on in spite of fear. Fear serves a purpose for self-preservation. It judges the risks involved. If fear induces panic, courage can step in and keep its head.


Many fears have no rational explanation. Such fears are called phobias. A person who can easily converse in small groups and holds a great command of language, sometimes finds it impossible to speak to a large group. The same goes for performing a talent. Why within the rational realm does this happen. Why can a person find it difficult to talk to fifty people at one time rather than just one or two. Some fear high places , some fo closed places. Some fear crowds, others fear the dark, Some fear germs, others feat insanity. Some fear ther own sex, others those of the opposite sex. But in all these fears, there is no rational basis.


For the sake of our life ideal and our happiness, it is essential, we take control over our fears. The way to do this is to face reality and judge every situation on a rational basis. With this process, the fear will fade away or it will at least become manageable.

Many have been heard to say, "I have had many troubles in lfie, but most of them never happened" or take a lesson from a famous saying - We fear the things that we think, instead of the things that are.

If our fears are out of order, we can begin to seek our life ideal in better ways. We can reconstruct our personality as we abstract unreasonable fears. We can live as if almost every fear that we experience is really exaggerated, even the fear of death itself.

We can build up courage the same way we overcome fears. A public speaker who fears yawns can have a practice session where all his listeners can yawn over and over again while he speaks. We can practice some of these things ourselves.

Father McQuade gives the example of what happens to new novices in the Jesuit community. Each young Jesuit is made to give a sermon in the dining room while everyone else carries on with their meal. Nothing works better than a young Jesuit in the process of making his essentiall point, have someone in the crowd ask someone else to pass the pork and beans.

Many workers tend to hold back their public speaking because of their grammar. However today their style is considered part of their nature just as it when someone from Harvard speaks. The Harvard man may talk well but in the end says nothing that is a reality in the streets or in the workplace. This brings us to another way to find courage. Study the lives of courageous people from every walk of life. There is always someone somewhere that lived through the similar experience as you who demonstrated valor and courage.

Let some of these things become habitual. Practice them in small ways first and then reach farther out to the places you want to reach to change things or make a difference. I found a vast void between the factory floors and the college class room. Both had their share of ignorance and both had their share of brilliance beyond the style of language they used.

Let your voice be heard in the global economic arena with courage to seek the common good for all.
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Hope and Despair (LINK)

July 12th 2008 21:10
By Ray Tapajna, continuing the study of personality and character for sake of self-improvement based on our notes from Father McQuade SJ JCU course

HOPE and DESPAIR

In his course Personality and Character, Father McQuade designates hope and despair as the first pair of emergency emotions and how we can make sure hope and not despair will be the dominant emotion of our lives. Again the answer is a realistic reasonable one.

Hope is an emotion in the expectation of a desired good which is considered to be obtainable. Despair is the opposite. It is an emotion generated by the absence of attaining a desired good and by a firm conviction that the good is unobtainable. Despair is about something that is missing and not really part of our lives.

Hope and despair may be habitual emotional state of a person with just the results one would naturally expect their personality to produce. One who lives with hope being predominant, will be active, dynamic and noble in mind. One who is characterized by despair will be sluggish, bored an futile. It is true that one who lives with hope may never experience the joy of possesing the desired good, but is also true the person who lives in despair cuts off the possibilities of possessing a good.

Happiness depends on a reasonable understanding of what is unttainable in the way we live our lives. For example, a person cannot expect to be married and not married at the same time. If a person wants it both ways, they are doomed to ultimate despair.
A person can not pursue a life where their IQ and aptitudes do not match, but they can use their rational judgement to live what is possible and even find ways to improve any conditions related to a low IQ or low evaluation. They can increase their skill level in more ways than just one. Reasonable hope can show the way. A person can realize that the circumstances conditioning their lives can be altered. Between the optimism and pessism there lies the objectivity of moderate realism. Finding that balance an attractive personality will be revealed.

In our times there may be too many tests and evaluations that 'curse' a person. We even can find someone whose IQ can change 30 points or so. We know many that hone their skills as a result of part of their abilities being not being up to par and many will upgrade the skills they have in superior ways. For example a poor reader can be a good speaker. ( I worked in several factories while going to college and found a vast void between the factory floors and the college classrooms. The greatest teacher turned out to be a factory foreman who taught me skills of life and not just work. It seems educators know more about producing more good educators without experiencing the practical life most people live.)

In our economic times, a working poor class has been created by elite forces who let things happen for their own selfish reasons. Manual labor is looked upon as something less than a person making money on money without working. A new solidarity of labor and work has to stop these tendencies. Workers must find more ways to challenge the elite groupings who prescribe the setting of the work place. Aristotle said making money on money is unnatural and yet in our times this is held at higher level of achievement than work itself.

We know life brings many hardships to conquer and there is good reason for temporary despair. However, hope can uplift us and actually activate what is good and then let that good grow no matter what. We can become what we hope for even though the original good we sought was something different. And for those who hold prayer as a power, hope can thrive with added grace. Change is the dramatic characteristic of living and in it we can find hope too.

NEXT we talk about courage and fear and later we go into what it takes to speak are minds in a way others will listen.

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Anticipation of Joy and Grief (LINK)

July 7th 2008 18:10
By Ray Tapajna from notes and outlines by Father McQuade SJ, JCU

We continue to explore the study of personality and character related to self improvement with the goal of providing a voice to the unnetted in the global economic arena of our times.

Does the old saying - put on a happy face -work? Does wearing a smile change how you feel about things? Did you ever practiced laughing while alone to change your mood? Why do we put a happy face sticker on things?

Yes, many of these practices do work. However, there is a deeper process to control our nervousness and sadness. The working word is - anticipation - or - expectation. If our anticipation is not balanced, we face a tougher road in our journey on earth.

I once told a priest friend that when I enjoy a delightful consolation in prayer or meditation, I calm the sensation down because I know it will not last and the dark night of the soul is always there to steal the delight away at any time. My priest friend said that he "milks" any delightful consolation as long as he can and worries about the other side when it comes and not before . Should we reside as long as possible in delightful consolation without moderating it with thoughts of it passing too?

Cheerfulness is a chief personality trait that controls joy and grief. It is a trait that comes from enjoying life with a proper anticipation or expectation of all the possibilities there are in life. We all know that this world being what it is , does not allow unterrupted joy, for everyone eventually faces a lost. We cannot insure perpetual joy or guarantee the absense of grief in this life, but we can foster always greater joy by a proper anticipation moderated by the agony of grief.

The key to controlling joy and grief is in our attitude of expectation towards life - then follows the experience of life. Our reactions depend on our harmony with the what we can expect in life.

Applying this to our control of joy and grief, we find that the reaction of pleasure in getting what we want and the reaction of grief in being deprived of what we want. depends upon our attitude we take toward life and a balanced traits of expectations. If the balance is in place, the pleasant things in life will be joyfully experienced. However, if we expect the happiness in this life to be perfect and perpetual in a state of undisturbed tranquility of bliss, we will head into an inordinary plunge of grief when reality catches up with us.

Many of good will, will tell you that when we are on the crest of joy, we should not be unmindful of how it will be when we are in the midst of grief - and when we are in the midst of grief, we should not forget how it will be when we are on the crest of joy.

In the life ideal, we pursue, the attractive personality that is one in the middle fo the two extremes: the exaltation of joy and the depths of grief. We need to base our foundation of joy on things that do not change. If we find the joy or our lives depending upon the way we look, vigorous health, financial success and things like that, we have founded our joy on shifting sands. If, however, we base our joy on the posession of things that no one can take away from us, things like intellectual interests, matters of achievement, a deep consciouness of human dignity , the a substantial amount of joy will always be there in our lives. And for those who pray will find another power besides themselves to rely upon. In this the gifts of wisdom and counsel will provide us a constant flow of true emotional balance. We can choose an advocacy accordingly to change things not only in our own lives but in the world around us. If nothing else we should dwell on what the common good is or should be in this life.

Explore philosophy and religion in the global economic arena at The Rationale




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By Ray Tapajna continuing the study of Personality and Character for the sake of self-improvement. Based on our notes from Father McQuade's JCU outline.
In our last post we explored the effects of love and hate. We continue now talking about desire and adversion. They are related to bodily reactions and there is a difference between desire that is merely felt and desire that has approval of the higher will. With adeversion, there is a difference too between that which is merely experienced and adversion that is recognized and consented to. It is the rejection of that higher will or choice that affects character as we noted in our past study of the power of the will. An important part in character building , we must exercise the indirect control we have over them to the utmost. It is possible to make good progress in long and patient practices through acquired reflexes. This way , we can gradually bring ourselves to desire the true rather than the apparent good and to abhor ther real rather than seeming evil.

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Love and Hate distinctions (LINK)

June 30th 2008 18:11
We continue our exploration into personality and character related to self improvment. We do this in an environment of the unnetted in the global economic arena with workers evidently having very little voice in their destinies. We hope our efforts provide a better platform for the unnetted to speak out. One of the greatest men I ever met was a shop foreman in the factory where I worked while going to college full time. I met many others on the way including some of the best Jesuit educators, a General in the Army, top political leaders and presidents of large corporations. The shop foreman influenced me the most. His caring nature in a pressure production environment was unique. He took care of those under his charge and taught me several manual skills never knowing he was teaching me much more. It came down to love. It was a love full of distinctions and this is what we will try to explore now.

We base much of our study on our notes from Father McQuade whose course I took in college and which remained with me my entire life. Father McQuade also had a local TV broadcast in Cleveland Ohio for some time


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Emotions can rule the game (LINK)

June 24th 2008 19:02
We continue to explore self improvment of personality and character and how we can pursue our life ideal. Emotions play a big part.

An emotion is a whole experience in perception not only of any given situation but its meaning to us and the bodily reaction to that perception. There is the knowing element by which one becomes aware of a certain situation. Then there is the desire element of attraction or repulsion that comes spontaneously with the perception of the happening; and finally there the bodily response in the corresponding actions of nerves, glands, internal organs and so on


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Can Will Power be trained (LINK)

June 11th 2008 02:59
Continuing our discussion about improving personality and character, we explore the concept of Will Power and if it can be trained.

There is a notion that some people are just born with a strong will and others with a weak will. On the other hand, many consider weakness of will a matter of choice and they will scold others for this weakness. Someone who breaks the law will plead a weak will in self justificaton. The overbearing types will plead a strong will


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What can your will do for you (LINK)

May 28th 2008 16:42
In exploring personality and character in hope of improving it, we can study what our will can do for us. What can we reasonably expect from our will. One can credit the will with too much power or too little. If we become discouraged with our will to change things, we may have credited the will with too much power. However, if we give the will too little credit , we will never prompt self-improvement.

The will can be your angels of hope
Find in your will your angels of hope

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A High Way and a Low (LINK)

May 27th 2008 22:40
It is the will which determines all the real choices in life. The intellect identifies the choices and then the will takes over. One who forms the habit of choosing well and according to moral law is developing a good character and vice versa. It is the will, ultimately, that determines character, and therefore the will should demand considerable attention in any pursuit related to personality and character.


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Father Jonathan explores suffering (LINK)

April 30th 2008 23:48
"How could anyone every tell you that you are less than beautiful " ( Title to a song, that all should hear. )

Lyrics of the song


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