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By Ray Tapajna continuing the study of Personality and Character for the sake of Self-Improvement - from our notes based on Father McQuade SJ JCU course in Personality and Character
Matching up our Emotions with our Life Ideal
A teacher affects their students in different ways. The same teacher will foster a strong response from some of his students and a weak one from others. Reason for an emotional response was triggered or not triggered. It shows are emotional reactions are dependent upon our reasoning process and intellectual insight. We have the power within us to look at the things that govern the quality of our emotions and the tones of meanings attached to our emotions.
We all have principles we live by and some are deep down in our mentality. They are good things in themselves and can be great tools in forming an inviting personality. It is good to react against injustice with holy anger. It is good to respond to beauty in others with the emotion of love. Basic to these two acts is the principle that injustice is something that should not happen and that goodness is to be sustained. We can build up our emotions to react spontaneously to goodness and curtail them with the attraction to bad things based on our prejudice of self love. ( Even when we are told we must love our selves first hides this prejudice of self love.)
We can train our emotions to be ready in our immediate consciousness to do good and avoid evil in any matter at hand. We could even train ourselves to pause before we act for our good emotions to go into action the proper way. We could built this into habitual responses. The young child in his early years in the classroom learns quickly how to control their emotions in a community of peers. They find that sharing is a good thing and they learn to practice kindness and generosity as an acquired habit.
"Do unto others as you would have them do for you" can become a natural habit .
And little boys soon find out their evil tendencies when the want to be first always with coming home with a blackend eye. When he comes home, he finds a mother who is an example of many acts of self-denial with many of the acts being unconsciously, habitually and automatically there as she tends to the black eye. The little boy without going through any special reasoning process, knows from the example of his mother why he got the blacken eye.
It is difficult fo any man or woman to discover by themselves the roots that grow an sound emotional life ideal. Self-love hides many things from us. Every person is primarily prejudice in favor of themselves. The father ( or mother these days) who come home from a stressful day at work, are on an automatic emotional level where their tranquility of life must not be disturbed at any cost. The act of self-denial becomes more difficult and the children responses to the situation become more difficult too. Theys sense the competition for emotional quality time.
In all these interactions, we must beware of the dictates of our primary principle of prejudice in favor of ourselves. We must also search out our motives behind the choices we make . The core of this search is our great store of self-examination. The spiritual person asks for God's help in the process. And even if the person is not religious there is a deep principle of goodness inside them that know the Perfect Love of God can be a vibrant influence knowingly or even unknowingly on the way we react to things. We know somehow that goodness does reign over bad things. We obviously see in others where it is more pronounced.
We could use this simple technique - if I saw someone else act like I am acting, what would I think of his principles of life? Or, better still ask yourself - would I like that person and would it be someone I like having around me.
Matching up our Emotions with our Life Ideal
A teacher affects their students in different ways. The same teacher will foster a strong response from some of his students and a weak one from others. Reason for an emotional response was triggered or not triggered. It shows are emotional reactions are dependent upon our reasoning process and intellectual insight. We have the power within us to look at the things that govern the quality of our emotions and the tones of meanings attached to our emotions.
We all have principles we live by and some are deep down in our mentality. They are good things in themselves and can be great tools in forming an inviting personality. It is good to react against injustice with holy anger. It is good to respond to beauty in others with the emotion of love. Basic to these two acts is the principle that injustice is something that should not happen and that goodness is to be sustained. We can build up our emotions to react spontaneously to goodness and curtail them with the attraction to bad things based on our prejudice of self love. ( Even when we are told we must love our selves first hides this prejudice of self love.)
We can train our emotions to be ready in our immediate consciousness to do good and avoid evil in any matter at hand. We could even train ourselves to pause before we act for our good emotions to go into action the proper way. We could built this into habitual responses. The young child in his early years in the classroom learns quickly how to control their emotions in a community of peers. They find that sharing is a good thing and they learn to practice kindness and generosity as an acquired habit.
"Do unto others as you would have them do for you" can become a natural habit .
And little boys soon find out their evil tendencies when the want to be first always with coming home with a blackend eye. When he comes home, he finds a mother who is an example of many acts of self-denial with many of the acts being unconsciously, habitually and automatically there as she tends to the black eye. The little boy without going through any special reasoning process, knows from the example of his mother why he got the blacken eye.
It is difficult fo any man or woman to discover by themselves the roots that grow an sound emotional life ideal. Self-love hides many things from us. Every person is primarily prejudice in favor of themselves. The father ( or mother these days) who come home from a stressful day at work, are on an automatic emotional level where their tranquility of life must not be disturbed at any cost. The act of self-denial becomes more difficult and the children responses to the situation become more difficult too. Theys sense the competition for emotional quality time.
In all these interactions, we must beware of the dictates of our primary principle of prejudice in favor of ourselves. We must also search out our motives behind the choices we make . The core of this search is our great store of self-examination. The spiritual person asks for God's help in the process. And even if the person is not religious there is a deep principle of goodness inside them that know the Perfect Love of God can be a vibrant influence knowingly or even unknowingly on the way we react to things. We know somehow that goodness does reign over bad things. We obviously see in others where it is more pronounced.
We could use this simple technique - if I saw someone else act like I am acting, what would I think of his principles of life? Or, better still ask yourself - would I like that person and would it be someone I like having around me.
